Overcoming Fear

Fear is a normal and essential emotion. Without it we would not survive. For many people, however, fear is overwhelming and keeps them in a place of inaction. They in essence become like a deer in head lights. Unable to make essential decisions and/or get what they want in their lives because their fear holds them back. Such fear can lead to a sense of feeling small, ineffectual, or less than others. Those who experience such fear often walk through life feeling frustrated and victimized because they do not have the relationships, job or status that they know they could have.

Fear as a Fantasy

Although some fear is essential to our survival many of our fears are simply the result of our thoughts. It is essential to feel fear when a truck is speeding toward us so that we can get the adrenaline we need to jump out of the way. A large majority of our fears come from our thoughts that are self perpetuating and are often not totally in line with reality. Such thoughts become fantasies that we hold onto as reality and cause us to move into the fight or flight reaction of fear. When our fear reactions are a result of our fantasies and not reality they often cause undesirable effects that make our lives more difficult. Many of these fantasies are connected to or created out of our low self-esteem, shame or sense of powerlessness.

My Approach to Overcoming Fear

I will help you examine your fears to help you determine which are created from your thoughts and then rework those thoughts with you so that they no longer generate so much fear. I will also give you tools which enable you to be with your fears that are real, allowing you to safely go for what you want without your fear holding you back. This work may include dealing with your shame, low self-esteem and reclaiming your passion and power through your anger at being disempowered.